Power For Peace: The Passive Trap
Copyright 2007 Richard Andrew King
In learning to defend ourselves, it is important for all of us, but
especially women, to understand the differences between peace and
passivity. Women are nurturers by nature. The thought of having to hurt
another person physically to protect themselves is foreign, even
repulsive, to most females. Such concepts have given rise to the
erroneous belief that peace equates to passivity.
Peace is not passivity. Peace is an active state of balance between the
opposing polarities of passivity on the one hand and activity on the
other. Peace is the fulcrum of the teeter-totter; the midpoint of the
pendulum. In a self-defense situation, passivity may be the solution
sometimes but not necessarily all the time. Thinking that being passive
will automatically create peace is a fallacious and dangerous concept .
. . and a potentially deadly trap.
Consider cancer. It is an invasive, insidious, passively growing,
potentially lethal disease. Remaining passive as a defensive strategy
in fighting cancer is a sure-fire recipe for death. Once diagnosed,
modern day defensive strategies to cure cancer become very active
and aggressive using chemotherapy, radiation treatment and even the
physically violent alternative of surgery in order to kill the disease
and return the body to its natural state of balance, peace and harmony.
So it is with protecting ourselves from the invasive, insidious and
potentially lethal assaults of abusers and predators. Remaining passive
in their attempt to violate us can literally be a dead end road. In the
case of assault, being passive is not a solution for peace but, like
being passive in fighting cancer, a warrant for pain, suffering and
The effects of assault, rape and personal violation are tragic,
horrific and sometimes, unfortunately, irreversible. Entire families,
not just the victim, can be affected for a lifetime. Is the
amalgamation of all this heartache worth clinging to the false idea
that being passive is being peaceful? Passive can be a good thing
sometimes, but not all the time. To preserve your life you must
sometimes fight for it.
The moral of this article: don't get caught in the passive trap. When
being assaulted or attacked, it's okay to be aggressive; it's okay to
fight back; it's okay to stand up for yourself and preserve your
health, safety, dignity and life and, in fact, you should. Honoring
your life means preserving it; not letting some predacious animal take
it away from you. You have a God-given right to defend yourself and to
live. Assert it! Take a class in female self-defense and honor your life.
Richard Andrew King: Grandmaster, Kiado-Ryu Karate